There are few exceptions but in this internet age most singles (and married people) meet perspective partners on internet dating sites or funerals. Online, most people extravagate their looks; job and personality, or underestimate their appeal and write a spotty profile; upload only blurry photos and give one word answers to your messages, even though they messaged you first.
Most people don’t know what they want; even when they say they do. Putting an ad up for a boyfriend/wife/mother/slave/gold fish lover, can be a job on its own. When writing your online profile, there seems to usually be alter egos going on; there is the person you think you are, and then there is the person you want to be; and there is the person you really are; if you’re smart you combine all three. Most people lie so much its embarrassing. I mostly met flaky jerks, who said one thing and did another.
For research only I joined three well known sites. Match; OkCupid and Plenty Of Fish. In my opinion here is how I will break down these dating websites.
|Jerk from Match.com|
Match: Match has been in business the longest and is showing signs of age and neglect (no wonder they bought OkCupid) Since Match is a paying site you would think you would meet some classier guys; my first message was from a gentlemen who was 92-years-old (he said he was looking for younger; like there’s anyone older!) A positive is most features are easy to use. The negatives are longer than a road trip with your mother in-law.
Most of the emails I got were from people from faraway places like Florida, South Dakota and Canada; which I don’t get; am I suppose to jump on a plane for a date? I don’t think so. They also keep old profiles online as active, even though most of the people have been off for months; when your pay period is up Match will automatically recharge you; so cancel or you’ll be charged.
|Jerk from OkCupid.|
OkCupid: OC is for the younger set. With its cryptic questions, fun but mostly lame quizzes that seem to grow by the week. Usually your “matches” come with 3 ratings; for example: this guy is 47% good for you, 12% friend, 39% enemy. Your match gets matched with the more questions you answer; only 39% enemy? Hot, what’s his number?
Went out with some cute guys here; mostly young and in the end; most guys in their 20”s are great, until they open their mouths; I joke-kind of. Actually there are cute guys on here but since it’s a free site, most dudes are flaky about getting together with you, even though they messaged you first.
|Jerk from Plenty Of Fish.|
Plenty Of Fish: POF is like the McDonalds of the dating websites; cheap looking design, sleazy ads popping up and a sick feeling after stomaching it. I have to be honest. The few people that contacted me on POF were pretty shady looking and I declined. It seemed that anyone I was interested in on here weren’t online since over a year ago-a sign that tells you the site made them sign up to search the site, and when they saw what was really there they got off quick (and not in a good way)
POF was the worst of the three; it could just be the New York area wasn’t so great when it came to guys; but hey that’s just me; if you like them toothless, living at home with momma or five hours away; then this is the site for you.
What I noticed on all three websites, besides the actors; most doctors and lawyers seem to love themselves and always mention what they do in their profile name, lawyerstud8 or doctormoney12; pretty pathetic; I guess they don’t even bother to impress you with looks or wit, money or title works just as well for some trashy people.
Update: After working on this article over 10 months ago I decided to rejoin all three sites and see if anything changed. I can’t say anything did. What was really surprising was 98% of the same guys were there from over a year ago (with the same pictures!) So I cancelled all 3 accounts, got some books for my Kindle and baked some brownies.