A friend asked me the other day why people cheat; and there
are so many reasons why someone looks for sex elsewhere; they’re bored with the
same person; they’re not getting sex at home; they’re nymphomaniacs, and
sometimes the person you married just
isn't a good fit for you sexually, and as the years go by it gets even worse.
Writing at Starbucks the other day I overheard two sassy gay
guys talking; the subject of cheating came about; and the bigger one remarked,
“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
It made me think, what would I do if I found out my
significant other was having an affair? I guess one imagines they would hit the
roof, while others probably think, “Good, that will keep him out of my bed.”
For me the answer wasn’t as simple; I don’t think I could forgive or trust the
person again, but that’s easy to say until it happens to you; sometimes the cheater should be forgiven, and hopefully trust in them restored in the future.
It always amazes me how couples can share a bed, a household
and never talk about anything that they’re feeling, which of course makes it
easy to imagine all kinds of things are going on with the other person, which in turn makes it easy to cheat, "I bet he's cheating too, we haven't had sex in months."
The answer to the question is; there’s no real answer;
everyone’s situation is different and requires a unique reaction; though a good
old fashioned vase to the head of the person who cheated on you, works pretty
well too.
